Tuesday, November 17, 2009
You're so Vain [guest blog]
Today I am proud to announce my first guest blogger. Adam from Throwing Quarters blog/podcast has written a great post about how blogging can affect your life. What you thought was just between you and the internet can hit close to home. It fits nicely with I have been writing about lately myself.
So let's welcome Adam....
You're So Vain
Hello to all you Vodka Logicals [can I say I just coined a term for all you Vodka Logic fans or what?]
If you have never heard of me, that's fine with me, and up until August, I was delightfully obscure in my own little blog world. Only a small handful of readers, and all of whom I built a unique relationship with read my blog, or so I thought.
From reading mommy bloggers to photog bloggers, to reading about the mundane intricacies of life, I was a realtive unknown. I would write exactly as I was feeling, about any subject I care to write about. From the cult like properties of the Catholic Religion to explaining why Obama was NOT my candidate, to why I will never buy a GM vehicle for as long as I live, to going off about the hell that is becoming my job in retail.
Oh my job. So like I stated before, up until August I was unknown. 29-30 followers, all of whom read and commented my blog. Then Blog of Note happened.
Google and Blogger plucked me from obscurity and put me in the public eye. My daily hits went from 400-500 a month to 400-500 and hour. Within minutes my blog had more traffic than I have ever had since keeping traffic records.
I was delighted. I would giggle as I read the enormous amounts of comments, I would giggle at the amount of traffic I was getting, and humbled by the amount of downloads my podcast was getting.
Then it happened.
My boss found out. How? Well it seems, as it turns out, my colleagues followed by blog with devotion. They followed anonymously and would keep comments to themselves. Then one day they started texting me and congratulating me on the success of my blog.
When I blew up, I continued posting as I felt I should. No holds barred style. I would use words like but not limited to, fuck, shit, bitch, fucktard, asshat, and cunt. I would write about all you stupid retail customers. I would write about my family. I would write about anything.
Well one day, after attending several weddings over the summer, I shared with my readers an observation. Why would you wear jeans to a wedding? I went off. I made up a fictional character which was a combo of every person I have ever seen at a wedding with jeans on, and I picked on them. I used a line, which I now wish I edited out, 'I know you. I work with you. I know you have nice slacks and a tie'.
That line alone caught the attention of some coworkers. Instantly all my colleagues who read my blog began wondering who it was. One person was at a wedding with me and assumed the whole blog was about 1 person that we worked with. So they took it upon themselves to tell said Jean Wearing coworker about it. They said, "Sorry dude about what Adam said about you on his blog."
He was ignorant. He didn't know. Soon an entire store [not mine] was pissed off. They took it upon themselves to print it and give it to my boss' boss. She in turn, read every curse word, every phrase, and every disingenuous thing about it to my boss, and demand that I take it down.
Too late, by the time it got that far, I was tipped off and I took it down as to not piss off any more coworkers.
Too late the damage was done. I was not fired, written up, or even sternly talked to. It ruined my reputation in my boss' eyes, and her superiors eyes. I was up for a promotion that I did not get. I was considered a leader, now, I am nothing but a swearing asshole.
My employer can't fire me. I never mentioned a name. I never mentioned where I work, but somehow that post alone has put me into a place at work where managers think I am toxic, unpromotable, and just a downright asshole.
So as you read a blog that pokes fun at people, keep your opinions on the blog. Share it with friends if you think to, but if you think a blog is about someone, and it never mentions their name, you are more guilty than I for pointing it out. I didn't mention a name. Since that person fit the description and you say, dude, 'that guy wrote a blog about you', you are basically saying it was not OK to wear jeans to a wedding, without the original thoughts behind your words. You are saying something to someone without having to say it and somehow it protects you from being guilty.
The way I see it, you, my friend, are the asshole. You, my friend, are the dickhead. You, my friend, are the toxic one.
You're so vain, you probably think THIS blog is about you.