I have to admit for as silly as most of those quizzes are this one was fairly spot on. I don't know what the rose has to do with it but I would call myself a loner. I like people and enjoy being with friends but not to any extreme. Most of my time is spent alone or with my family. I work nights in a hospital and either work by myself or with one other person, ideal for me.
I have never been one for having parties or a lot of people around, in fact most of the time I don't like to have people at my home. It is my place of respite. My daughters know this so most birthday parties were held at Chuck E. Cheese or someplace similar. I have come around in recent years and don't mind their friends over as much. Perhaps it is because they are older?
I do want to clarify being a loner doesn't mean I am lonely. I'm not most of the time. I just like being alone and do fine with it. As the quiz stated I pick and choose and those I let in are important. There are always those friends that pop in and out of our lives but the gaps are never evident. It is like they have always been there, catching up is instantaneous.
This all does have a point I want to share. The internet has turned into a great friend to me. I have met many people on the internet over the last few years. Most of them wonderful and a few not so great. True in real life as well. I can hang out with these friends when I choose and I don't have to comb my hair or tidy up. Most of my internet friends feel the same way. I have managed to meet many in real life as well and I have not been disappointed yet.
Perhaps I have said it best in this poem I wrote back in January...What are your thoughts, this blogosphere is certainly expanding my horizon.
Invisible Friends
Aren't we all a little odd...
To be hanging out with invisible friends..
But then if they give me shit I can log off.
And return when, it depends.
To switch off and retreat,
Is something we can't do in life.
We have to deal with day to day,
The fun, the joy, the strife.
I like my friends,
That are behind the screen.
Who understand these things,
But I leave it up to them, what it is to be seen.
The eyes don't deceive you,
Since the face is never shown.
You know what I what you too,
My personality, on loan.
So let us just be friends,
We still have a lot to learn yet.
And let's enjoy it when we can,
Our life for the internet.
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A spot-on poem and very appealing to my lone wolf side, which I think is often confused for being aloof, especially since I've moved to way over here in San Francisco. (Where I learned of your excellent blog from my superior sister, Melissa B.) Thanks !
You received your desire for alone time naturally. I have always felt that need. In fact I get very up tight if I don't have my portion of alone time. School vacations used to be hard for me because I was never alone. By the end of August I was chewing my nails (figuratively that is). Love you my sweet, Mom
I'm a bit of a loner, too. And I LOVE roses, but yellow ones, which are closer to my Texas roots. Love your poem. Yet another reason you're a Superior Scribbler, correctamundo?
I'm a loner who is never lonely.
Everyone is definitely a little bit crazy. Except me. There is 100% normalcy flowing through my veins.
For the better part of each I am being surrounded by people... that is at work.
I live by myself, and that is how I prefer it. I can only share my home with a partner.
My home is my escape from my chaotic professional life, where I can switch off and escape.
I am very realistic about the internet, and even though I would comment on blogs, I won't easily engage in online communication with others. So, I do not have online friends. I would read some of the online forums but I won't easily engage in the dialogue.
Though I am not a loner in real life, I am a loner on the internet. Too many cliques on the in the virtual world and some of them are just nasty.
I love your poem.
if it were not for the intertubs, we would never be tweeting back and forth at all hours of the day!
Good post.
I too am somewhat of a loner. I like my time alone - maybe it's because I so rarely get time alone!
I'd be a rose too. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. Especially when you have a family to take care, sometimes I just don't want to have to entertain people or hold long coversations all teh time. I'm certainly not Lonely, but I find peace within my family and myself.
62 degrees is freezing when i've been in nothing but 105 plus degree weather everyday then all of a sudden arrive in 62 degree weather. LOL I had to laugh because yeah we don't get snow in SF so I guess it's not that cold, but it's cold for me. LOL
I can go either way alone or with others but I think I do well on my own. Your poem is so creative and very well written. I think it relates to everyone who spends significant time online.
Both the poem and your explanation of your strength by yourself are amazing. I think that you're right on with how you've explained these friendships..
I get scared sometimes, with younger kids and the internet where they confuse the two worlds and choose never to be alone. Being alone is so important, when would you write these poems otherwise!!?
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You know what...I'm a bit of a loner as well. Perhaps that's why the internet is so appealing:)
Like you, I'm a loner but I love having a lot of online interaction. I guess it allows us to still be social while not having to have a lot of people around? Generally on quizzes it's said about me that I am outgoing around people I know but really shy in a roomful of strangers.
I like that....
I value my quiet time. I like being alone and look forward to it, just as much as I like to go out and socialize with friends. I guess it just depends on my mood. Sometimes, I just don't want to be overly-stimulated with noise and ruckus, so I retreat in silence with a good book, magazine, or the internet.
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What a wonderful poem. I have become a loner after moving to NYC. I actually don't mind it at all. I used to always be surrounded with people and found myself uncomfortable when I was alone.
Now I can be alone when i want to be and if I need a friend, I can just log on and I am sure someone will be there.
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I rarely entertain at my home either, and it is not for lack of it being cleaned and organized; I'm just not big on entertaining. Maybe my son will find this odd some day. Who knows?
A little solitude is good at times to clear the mind; sometimes I find socializing exhausting!
Your poem says it all - great job!
Love the poem, L. I like my friends behind the screens.
Hope all is well!
Love the poem - very well written...and with a blog title like Vodka Logic, I have no idea how or why I haven't been here before. My nickname in college was Vodka V, and not much has changed :)
FB quizzes are hilarious, but I can't take them seriously. Although I did take one that told me which "Awesome 80s Female Cartoon Figure" I was with the result of She-Ra. Hell yeah. Love the blog!
Ah, at last I have managed to get to your blog! It's great and you have so many admirers! I just have to say that this post on being a loner fits my profile exactly. So great to find friends like you in cyberspace.
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